Empowerment

1-Minute Read: Have You Been Hurt in a Relationship?

recite-Hurt in a relationshipI have spent many years researching and trying to understand confusing, painful and difficult relationships.  I have had my share.  We all have.  I have challenging family relationships.  I have been divorced.  And yes, I have been hurt.

We will always have challenging people and relationships in our life.  Personalities and life experiences play a big part in all of our relationships.

Never underestimate the value of understanding what is really going on in a relationship… as well as your part.  Put some time into it.  This will assist you in moving on with your life — with or without the challenging person.  Sometimes a solution is as simple as learning how to create healthy boundaries.

There is no shortcut in dealing with a painful relationship.  It hurts.  You will cry.  You will be angry and scream “This is unfair!”  But in the end you will reclaim your peace of mind.  

Peace of mind is what I help women with.

If you or someone you know would like to help in reclaiming peace of mind after (or during) a hurtful relationship, please let me know.

We were created to feel empowered in all of our relationships.


 

Michelle Kelley 10.14 c
Michelle Kelley Licensed Counselor, Owner, Girls Stand Strong

Licensed counselor and founder of Girls Stand Strong Michelle Kelley, LCSW, helps girls and women of all ages develop and improve their self-image, self-esteem, relationship and communication skills, emotional understanding, coping skills, the ability to handle difficult situations and people, and resiliency to create a brighter, better and more successful tomorrow. For more information about Michelle’s coaching and counseling services, call (703) 505-2413 or email michelle@girlsstandstrong.com.

1-Minute Read: Did you make your bed today?

Did you make your bed3Making your bed may seem like a small thing to you, but never underestimate the power of focusing on your small accomplishments. I do make my bed most days. I pay attention to how I feel after my bed is made. I take pride in a pretty bed. I take pride in my home and my office looking nice. Do you?

When we were children it was our small successes that were celebrated: our first step, putting our toys away, sleeping in our own beds. There is great value in going back to this way of thinking. I believe we would all be a lot happier if we could genuinely feel proud of our efforts and the small tasks in our life.

Here is the point: We cannot always accomplish big things (at first) and even focusing on the larger accomplishments can be overwhelming or paralyzing.

  • So instead of looking ahead at how much more you need to do, how about looking at your accomplishments and celebrating the MOMENT? In the spirit of mindfulness (click here to read my latest magazine article), try bringing your focus on TODAY, THIS MOMENT. What are you proud of? What can you celebrate? Maybe it’s just getting out of bed or maybe you had the courage to leave a toxic relationship.
  • Then take notice of how you feel when you accomplish something small such as making your bed, doing the dishes, washing your car (meaning driving through a car wash for me), helping your child with their homework or cleaning the dreaded toilet.

I find that women in particular find it difficult to celebrate the “little stuff”, to pat ourselves on the back, to say “Yay me”. Our culture does not support this way of thinking but I do.

If you would like some help in learning how to retrain your brain to celebrate your successes and experience a wonderful new outlook on life, please contact me at michelle@girlsstandstrong.com or 703-505-2413. I would love to hear from you.

Here’s to making your bed today (or tomorrow). Try it and see how you feel.

 


Michelle Kelley 10.14 c
Michelle Kelley Licensed Counselor, Owner, Girls Stand Strong

Licensed counselor and founder of Girls Stand Strong Michelle Kelley, LCSW, helps girls and women of all ages develop and improve their self-image, self-esteem, relationship and communication skills, emotional understanding, coping skills, the ability to handle difficult situations and people, and resiliency to create a brighter, better and more successful tomorrow. For more information about Michelle’s coaching and counseling services, call (703) 505-2413 or email michelle@girlsstandstrong.com.

Read What People Are Saying About Michelle Kelley.

Do you feel stuck, hopeless or frustrated in your relationship?

Conflict between man and womanVery little has been written on the topics of empowered women and healthy relationships outside the world of business and the workforce.

The 1940s version of an empowered woman focused on her physical accomplishments more than her emotional well-being or the health of her personal relationships. The iconic Rosie the Riveter poster spoke to women’s changing role in the workplace, where they were rising to the challenges of performing traditional “men’s work.”

In the 1960s, Betty Friedan spearheaded the feminist movement, prompting more and more women to question their traditional roles as homemaker and mother, and seek more fulfilling educational and career opportunities. In the 1990s, Hillary Clinton introduced the possibility that a woman could, indeed, be elected President of the United States.

Today’s empowered woman knows that she deserves – and knows how to command – respect in all relationships. She does not define herself only by her accomplishments in the world (Olympic gold medalist, Secretary of State, Company President or Chairwoman, etc.), no matter how amazing her accomplishments.

An empowered woman:

  • Listens to and honors her inner voice, and uses her outer voice to express herself positively in     all of her relationships
  • Recognizes her strengths and embraces her weaknesses.
  • Does not tolerate disrespectful or contemptuous behavior in her relationships because she values her time and energy.
  • Avoids emotionally-draining relationships and negativity.
  • Understands that the choices she has made in the past have created her current situation and knows that she is able to create a different future for herself.
  • Believes she deserves — and is capable of achieving — success in life, as she defines success for herself.

True empowerment for a woman comes from knowing how you feel and then being able to communicate your needs and feelings appropriately. You express yourself more fully and authentically in all your relationships — with your husband, children, parents, siblings, romantic partners, friends, and colleagues in the workplace. You know when to say ‘no’ and where to draw the line. You recognize your own needs and ask for help when necessary.

If you have not learned how to communicate your wants and needs effectively in your relationships, you likely feel stuck, hopeless or frustrated. Communication is oxygen in a relationship. Without it, the relationship will die.

Many women I have counseled in my private practice have confided in me that they feel their situation or relationship is hopeless, or that their husband or another key person in their lives won’t listen. Many of my clients have chosen to silence their voice, out of a feeling of hopelessness or despair. They may feel overpowered, threatened or invalidated in her key relationships.

I have traveled the road of personal disempowerment, and I know the obstacles women encounter along that road. Through education, guidance and support, I help women just like you create positive change in themselves first and their relationships second.

Please reach out to me for assistance if you’re ready to become one of today’s empowered women. You may contact me via email or phone 703-505-2413 to arrange an appointment.


Michelle Kelley

Michelle Kelley Licensed Counselor, Owner, Girls Stand Strong

Licensed counselor and founder of Girls Stand Strong Michelle Kelley, LCSW, helps girls and women of all ages develop and improve their self-image, self-esteem, relationship and communication skills, emotional understanding, coping skills, the ability to handle difficult situations and people, and resiliency to create a brighter, better and more successful tomorrow. For more information about Michelle’s coaching and counseling services, call (703) 505-2413 or email michelle@girlsstandstrong.com.

Read What People Are Saying About Michelle Kelley.

Schedule an Appointment

Make an Appointment

Testimonials

I just wanted to say THANK YOU. I left your office so inspired today.
...
AnnaMay
To say Michelle changed our lives would not be an exaggeration. She was very empathetic and non-judgmental... She didn't make our daughter feel badly... She didn't make my husband and myself feel like incompetent parents.
...
Linda
I definitely owe my newfound confidence to Michelle. Without her, I don’t know how I would’ve been able to come out of my horrible situation as such a better version of myself.
...
Grace
People don't understand Michelle doesn’t just offer advice… which they seem to be afraid of hearing. I convey the message that the decisions you make are ultimately your own but Michelle will help you find clarity and sort through emotions.
...
Chris
We felt comfortable knowing that Michelle would be the kind of counselor that would help our daughter see the good in herself, but also question some of her choices and actions.
...
Patricia
You have brought back the communication ability that I thought that I lost. You helped her understand what we were feeling and she is such a better person for seeing you.
...
Maggie
Michelle, you are so right about [my daughter] and how she thrives off of feelings of accomplishment. All seems to be good now. She amazes me every day with the way she is learning to handle tough situations.
...
Cynthia
With Michelle’s guidance, I was able to accomplish in approximately 8 months what I hadn’t been able to over the past 15 years.
...
Elizabeth
I am forever grateful for Michelle's help.
...
Anne
Thank you, Michelle, for giving me my voice and a new lease on life.
...
Nancy
Retired Arlington County Teacher
She helped me focus my attention toward problem-solving issues.
...
Laura Clancy, Owner
MuffinToppled® Fitness Coaching
Michelle is the best life coach I ever had.
...
Marina
Michelle is an excellent listener and her insights and advice were always right on target.
...
Ann
(mother of a teen girl)
She helped me in so many ways!
...
Kelly
Michelle Kelly saved my life. What more can I say?
...
Stephanie W.

Read More Testimonials »

Sign-up for Our Newsletter

1-minute-read-newsletters
Teaching women and girls how to live with integrity, authenticity and self-awareness.

Subscribe here:


View previous newsletters.

Expert Blog Categories

Let’s chat!

92 Main Street, Suite 202, Warrenton, Virginia 20186

540-316-6362