emotional wounds

1-Minute Read: Go into your POWER not your wounds.


In my last article I talked about emotional wounds and “Woundology“. This time I want to focus on our ability to tap into our strengths and our personal power.

How often do we hear the question, “How are you today?” Do we ever hear a response like “I’m great; feeling strong, talented and blessed”? Probably not. Our culture does not support this kind of talk. As a matter of fact, we will get more support and validation if we lead with our wounds and our pain.

For women especially, it is easy to connect with our ‘lack’ mentality… I’m not good enough, she is better at that, I could never do that, etc. In other words, we can easily connect with what we are not doing well.

Doesn’t this seem backwards?

How about if we all decided to own our strengths, our talents and our accomplishments? Imagine that. Imagine the message we would send our daughters and others watching.

The truth is our emotional wounds can help us tap into our power. Oftentimes we build personal power as we move through these wounds.

My personal power really started to show up when I went through my own divorce. It was the most empowering time in my life. It was also scary and confusing, but I was able to take care of myself both physically and emotionally so that I could tap into my power. Now it gives me great joy to help other women and girls to find their personal power and use it wisely. This is what I call EMPOWERING.

If you think you don’t have it in you, you are wrong. We all have personal power.


Michelle Kelley 10.14 c
Michelle Kelley Licensed Counselor, Owner, Girls Stand Strong

Licensed counselor and founder of Girls Stand Strong Michelle Kelley, LCSW, helps girls and women of all ages develop and improve their self-image, self-esteem, relationship and communication skills, emotional understanding, coping skills, the ability to handle difficult situations and people, and resiliency to create a brighter, better and more successful tomorrow. For more information about Michelle’s coaching and counseling services, call (703) 505-2413 or email michelle@girlsstandstrong.com.

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