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1-Minute Read: Fun Facts About Feelings

Copy of Fun facts about feelingsAs we close in on Valentine’s Day, I want to share with you some “Fun” Facts About Feelings.

• Feelings can be simple or complex
• Feelings are influenced by our thoughts
• Feelings come in many layers. Often we will experience multiple ones at the same time.
• Feelings are contagious.
• Feelings are not right or wrong. They just exist.

Many females have learned how to suppress their feelings and be ashamed of them. This needs to change.

Identifying, owning and explaining your feelings will lead to greater CONFIDENCE.

Yes, I am sure.

If you are not sure how to go about creating this change for yourself, I would like to help you.


 

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Licensed counselor and founder of Girls Stand Strong Michelle Kelley, LCSW, helps girls and women of all ages develop and improve their self-image, self-esteem, relationship and communication skills, emotional understanding, coping skills, the ability to handle difficult situations and people, and resiliency to create a brighter, better and more successful tomorrow. For more information about Michelle’s coaching and counseling services, call (540) 316-6362 or email michelle@girlsstandstrong.com.

1-Minute Read: A Strong Sense of Self

1-Minute Read- A strong sense of selfIf you don’t already have it, it’s time to develop your own strong sense of self (aka confidence). Confidence involves embracing your strengths as well as your weaknesses. It also involves developing a sense of yourself without being self-centered.

Yes, you can do this.

Here are some suggestions on how to build a strong YOU!

• Know who you are and what you stand for
• Be okay with others not liking you
• Speak up for what matters to you
• Let go of trying to be perfect
• Own your weaknesses (it’s a strength to do so)
• Be REAL!

I believe in helping our kids to set realistic goals for themselves, too. Be good enough! Try enough! Like yourself enough! Really, enough is good enough.

P.S. This goes against the popular belief that we must strive for excellence… how stressful and unrealistic!


 

Michelle Kelley 10.14 c

Licensed counselor and founder of Girls Stand Strong Michelle Kelley, LCSW, helps girls and women of all ages develop and improve their self-image, self-esteem, relationship and communication skills, emotional understanding, coping skills, the ability to handle difficult situations and people, and resiliency to create a brighter, better and more successful tomorrow. For more information about Michelle’s coaching and counseling services, call (540) 316-6362 or email michelle@girlsstandstrong.com.

1-Minute Read: Tips for Getting Girls “Emotionally” Ready for School

1 Minute Read Tips for Getting Girls Emotionally Ready for SchoolIt’s that time again! Depending on where you live, the new school year may have just begun or it will be soon. Help your daughter feel ready for school – emotionally – so she can start the year with a sense of confidence and self-awareness.

7 Tips for Getting Girls “Emotionally” Ready for School

1. Ask her how she feels about school starting. Remember that open-ended questions get longer answers.

2. Listen to her. No really, LISTEN to what she says.

•Give it a few minutes before you respond… or don’t respond (that day).
•You will likely need time to process her response.
•It is your job to weed through the “important” answers from the “unimportant” ones.
•Part of what is so helpful to a girl is to hear herself verbalize her feelings.
•Remember, ultimately it will be her job to understand herself, her emotions and her choices.

3. Ask another open-ended question such as “Is there anything that feels scary or yucky about going back to school?” Depending on her age, you get the idea. Keep probing – gently.

4. Validate her feelings. This is VERY, VERY important. Her feelings are never wrong. They just are!

5. Don’t criticize, laugh or minimize her feelings (even if they seem silly to you) as they are likely pretty important to her. If she feels mocked, she will make a mental note to not share with you anymore. You don’t want this to happen.

6. Ask her if there is anything you can do to help her. She might have a suggestion such as being able to go and visit the school before it starts (especially if she is going to a new school). As girls move to middle school and high school, many can feel intimidated by the size of the school and being with so many upper classmates.

7. Keep the conversation going. Circle back to some of the above after a few days to see if anything new has come to her after she’s had an opportunity to think about your questions.

If you hear anything that you find concerning, please feel free to reach out to me. I can help to validate whether or not the issue needs something other than a loving parent’s support.

Whether this is a happy time for you or a sad one, I wish you well on this year’s school journey.

 


 

Michelle Kelley 10.14 c

Licensed counselor and founder of Girls Stand Strong Michelle Kelley, LCSW, helps girls and women of all ages develop and improve their self-image, self-esteem, relationship and communication skills, emotional understanding, coping skills, the ability to handle difficult situations and people, and resiliency to create a brighter, better and more successful tomorrow. For more information about Michelle’s coaching and counseling services, call (703) 505-2413 or email michelle@girlsstandstrong.com.

1-Minute Read: Confidence!

Authenticity_breeds_confidenceI have always been curious about confidence. What is it? How do you get it? Why do some people have more of it than others?

As a woman and as a counselor I have been on my own journey to understand the mystery of confidence. In the February issue of the Warrenton Lifestyle you can find my article on “The Mystery of Confidence” (click link here to read it).

Hundreds of girls and women have shared with me their struggles and their pain. I often hear these words: “I don’t feel worthy”, “I don’t like myself/my body”, “I don’t have the confidence to say/do that”. It takes courage to be so vulnerable – even with a therapist. I appreciate the trust many have given me as I help them to understand themselves and their relationships.

Confidence is built with the winning combination of right thinking and action.

You can learn how to think in an empowered way.

You can learn how to act in an empowered way.

You can learn to feel and be more confident.

Confidence is a requirement for healthy relationships.

Above all, we must be authentic. Authenticity breeds confidence.

Learn what is weakening or has destroyed your confidence and most importantly, learn how to build or restore your confidence. I would love to help you.


 

Michelle Kelley 10.14 c

Licensed counselor and founder of Girls Stand Strong Michelle Kelley, LCSW, helps girls and women of all ages develop and improve their self-image, self-esteem, relationship and communication skills, emotional understanding, coping skills, the ability to handle difficult situations and people, and resiliency to create a brighter, better and more successful tomorrow. For more information about Michelle’s coaching and counseling services, call (703) 505-2413 or email michelle@girlsstandstrong.com.

1 Minute Read: The Confidence Gap

One-Minute Read-The Confidence GapResearch shows that females are less confident than males.  In my book, confidence is as important as competence.

I was not confident as a child or a young adult.  I felt held back, frustrated, stuck, confused and hopeless at times.  I learned how to be confident through a winning combination of right-thinking and action.

It also helped having an awesome therapist who helped me navigate through difficult mental terrain and many challenging transition periods (such as school, marriage, parenting, divorce, business ownership). I continue to work with an awesome therapist because I’m certain there is more to come in my life where I will want and need her guidance.

How confident are you?

Why do you think you have shaky confidence (in certain areas)?

Do you know how to build your self-confidence?

I want to empower females to catch up to the guys in the area of CONFIDENCE.  We can do it!  

Need some support and guidance?  I would be happy to help you on your confidence journey.


 

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Michelle Kelley Licensed Counselor, Owner, Girls Stand Strong

Licensed counselor and founder of Girls Stand Strong Michelle Kelley, LCSW, helps girls and women of all ages develop and improve their self-image, self-esteem, relationship and communication skills, emotional understanding, coping skills, the ability to handle difficult situations and people, and resiliency to create a brighter, better and more successful tomorrow. For more information about Michelle’s coaching and counseling services, call (703) 505-2413 or email michelle@girlsstandstrong.com.

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