Happy Singles Awareness Day: It’s All About Perception

When Valentine’s Day Hurts Or Happy Singles Awareness Day: It’s All About Perception

What do you do when you are alone on Valentine’s Day or if you don’t have that someone special to celebrate with?

The temptation might be to feel less than or unloved. Sadly, females fall prey to feeling like this on Valentine’s Day more than males. Does society place more emphasis on women being in a relationship? Possibly. The real question is, how much emphasis do you place on being in a relationship?

The reality is that you will not always be in a romantic relationship on every Valentine’s Day throughout your entire life… and that is okay! Does your relationship status really matter that much in the scale of your happiness level? If so, think about why it matters so much to you.

Valentine’s Day is also known as Singles Awareness Day :-).  It’s true! Some people observe it the day before or the day after to avoid the hype, but they still celebrate being single.

No matter what, I want you to get through Valentine’s Day feeling good about yourself. Here are some tips to help you cope with the possible anxiety of not being in a relationship on that day.

  • Keep the day in perspective.
  • Love your singleness – after all, there are some real benefits to being single if you can allow yourself to see them.
  • Be happy with yourself.  Not only is this good for you but it also makes you more attractive to someone else.
  • Treat yourself.  You don’t have to wait for someone else to buy you something nice!
  • Treat someone else you care about – such as a parent, child or friend.  That way you will take the focus off of you and how you are feeling.

On the other hand, if you are celebrating with a special someone this Valentine’s Day, remember that they (and you) are special every day.  Chocolates, flowers and acknowledging your love for them should not be limited to one day of the year.

Let me know what you are doing to celebrate the one you should love the most–yourself.


Michelle Kelley BA, MSW, LCSW Licensed Counselor, Owner, Girls Stand Strong

Michelle Kelley Licensed Counselor, Owner, Girls Stand Strong

Licensed counselor and founder of Girls Stand Strong Michelle Kelley, LCSW, helps girls and women of all ages develop and improve their self-image, self-esteem, relationship and communication skills, emotional understanding, coping skills, the ability to handle difficult situations and people, and resiliency to create a brighter, better and more successful tomorrow. For more information about Michelle’s coaching and counseling services, call (703) 505-2413 or email michelle@girlsstandstrong.com.

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