1-Minute Read: Feelings are NOT Facts!

1 minute read - feelings are not factsA common mistake I see people make is that they assume their feelings are facts. Yet feelings change throughout a day and certainly throughout a lifetime.

For example, if you are feeling particularly sad, do not assume that you are necessarily depressed or that you will be sad forever. However, if this feeling of sadness has been around for a while you will likely need some professional help to assess what you are dealing with and how to feel better.

Whether your emotion is anger, frustration, disgust, anxiety or even happiness — do not get overly attached to that emotion. It will change. It is NOT you. It is an emotion you are experiencing…for a reason. Get curious about it.

Ask yourself:

  • Why am I feeling this way?
  • What is this emotion telling me?
  • Is there something I need to do different?

The goal is to understand your emotions and the message they are sending you. You do not want your emotions to be the boss of you. You want to be the boss – empowered!

This happens when you learn how to:

  • Accept your emotions without judgment (mindfulness)
  • Manage your emotions in a positive way

Of course, this takes practice. It is also a process which I teach women and girls as part of living life with integrity and self-awareness.

Please contact me at michelle @ girlsstandstrong.com or 703-505-2413 when you are ready to take this step.

Remember…Your feelings are NOT facts. They are merely pointing you in the direction where you may need to do some personal growth work.

Wishing you well on you journey!


Michelle Kelley 10.14 c
Michelle Kelley Licensed Counselor, Owner, Girls Stand Strong

Licensed counselor and founder of Girls Stand Strong Michelle Kelley, LCSW, helps girls and women of all ages develop and improve their self-image, self-esteem, relationship and communication skills, emotional understanding, coping skills, the ability to handle difficult situations and people, and resiliency to create a brighter, better and more successful tomorrow. For more information about Michelle’s coaching and counseling services, call (703) 505-2413 or email michelle@girlsstandstrong.com.

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